Category Archives: Life & Experience

Here I will share with you my life and experience I had and having till now.

Walk with flow of waves

Today I want to pen down About the tornado running inside me… hopefully I can..:)

It happened earlier and it is going to happen again, my life changed after marriage and I came here though I never wanted to, reason being I never want to leave my country and family and plus I always afraid about living in strange country, where you get people of your own kind but most of them forget about their own roots and are running in the race of to be like others they are living with, I mean like English. I know it will not be easy and I know I have to struggle with all unexpected, expected circumstances and including myself.. It happened and I can say that the time I have spent in UK was the bad time of my life, ya it could have worst but my husband did not let it be.. I am sorry hubby but you know it was not easy for me to staying away from family and even my friends went away from me giving excuse that I am not there for them, staying alone and with some worst people.

After spending lot of time here, A feeling that always insist me to go back to India is going away. Now I want to achieve the things I have not achieve yet, I want to believe in the dream of my husband, I want to do something for him, I want to stay beside him, I want to accept the challenge and I want to motivate myself.

Now I realised I have given the chance to people to laugh at me, to criticise me,to say whatever they want, to take me as granted. Who are they, Have they come and give me food and shelter, have they know me, what I am and What I was. Hell with them. I want to achieve dreams of my hubby so that my own dreams. No, I do not want to proof myself to anyone, I do not need and I do not care.

Now I just want to gain my confidence that I have lost some where, I want to be Neetu Singh I used to be, Who was strong enough to fight with anything, who never care about people and about what they think and they say about her. She used to live in her own world.

I accepted my fate that whatever I will do for anyone, that will not be get appriceated.

I am not sure about my next step but from today I will work on our dreams, me and my husband and give my hundred percent to achieve them, even if I fall somewhere I know my husband is there to hold me and take me with him.

It hurt lot when every one left me alone here, my beloved one, when I needed them most, they were not there, they set excuse for me that I left them, I went away, But for them all, Is that going away means you should leave me alone, I never thought that any distance can make me away from my friend’s heart, they will give-up so easily and they will not support me.. I was broken half when I came away from my family and when my friends too went away I was broken fully and Now.. I want to forget everything and start a fresh, I want to stay happy and be the one I used to be.. No more sad things.. Good bye forever to Emotional and fool Neetu Singh..

I love my friends and family, It will feel lovely if they support me and if they do not want even then I am fine and happy.. 🙂

Isha my darling sister thnx for being there for me when ever I need you, I am thankful to God that he sent you in my life… You love have given me strength to stand again and walk on my own feet.. Love you lot.. hugs tightly..

 

Take a right step..

Hi there.. Today I am going to discuss very serious topic of today’s world. Before going further, few questions are arising from my heart.. One Who are the most important part of our life? second What we have done for them? third, What is the meaning of living true life? And Last What you prefer Money or Family? Lets see.. 🙂

Most important part of my life is my family and friends!!!

When I talk about the family, I mean parents, brother-sister and other relatives. Here’s come the main point of topic.. Our Parents

I Love my parents and most of us do, they are the reason of our existence, the first word an infant learn is Maa, This word need no explanation, Mother who takes pain ( Labour pain) to give a birth.. Which is also called new birth of a mother, because this pain is so powerful that a lady can die, But she takes it with smile on her face because she do Love her baby, which is her own part. After a birth she takes many more pain for up-bringing of her baby, leaving her comforts and stay restless all the time with baby.

 Another side Father a second word an infant say, give his 100% to help his lady and protect his child, he teach him how to walk and many more things to cope with world. Our parents support us physically, emotionally, mentally and economically at every point we need them BUT We…

What we have given to them.. Here I would like to tell you about an incident happened with us while we Four Me, my husband, My friends and her husband were coming back after celebrating my husband’s birthday. We have reached Southall from Ealling at 12.00 am when we saw a very aged person standing in a horrible cold weather. We all started wondering, Why this aged uncle was standing there, he was not in good condition, and we heard a sound, that aged uncle called us and said I wanted to go Northhalt and somebody told me that I would get a bus from here, Could you help me in getting the bus. We wondered that place, We were not sure about that location and asked him bus number, he said 120 number, (Btw that aged person was a punjabi Indian) We said yes We knew from where you could get that bus and asked him to walk with us till bus stop, but he was not in condition to walk even, he told us that he just got discharged by hospital people and they even did not arrange any taxi for him. We were shocked to know that. We asked him about his family then he said I stay alone, my wife left me and my children are living here but separately and they do not care about him. (hate people, who do not care for their parents and leave them to die alone), Now situation was different and we decided to drop that aged person at his home, we did not want to take risk of his life, Because we do Love our parents and he was like our father. later on, we realised, that person forgot about his home address and bus stop close to his home. At last we called police to accommodate in dropping that aged uncle at his home. At last he reached. And I wish him peace and Love.. God stay with him 🙂

I felt bad and my heart was crying for him and then I give a thought about many aged people who are living without their children in bad condition, in old age homes. Is that what we are giving our parents back for their love and hardship. We should never forget that One day we will be one their place and how we will feel when our own child will behave bad and leave us alone. Consider it.

True meaning of living a life means live your life for your parents, give them love and affection, they just want this from us. Love your parents from heart, not take them as a burden, they should be given the right place in family with respect. You are everything to them.. 🙂

Mind it, family is more important than money, You can never get love and happiness with money but you can get money while loving your family.

This post is dedicated to my parents and parents-in-Law.. I Love you Mom and Dad.. You are in my heart and I miss you lot..

Remembering 2011 and welcoming 2012

Hey there,  A very Happy New Year 2012

New Year is here and when I went back into the 2011, I found it was the most crucial year of my life, there were drastic changes, some were positive and some were negative, some were expected and some were unexpected. Well here I am going to take you to some of non-forgettable moment of 2011.

2011 was a year when I came away from my family and friends, It was happened first time in my entire life, unexpected though, normally girls go away from their family when they get marry but it was not in my case, even after marriage I was not far away from my family and friends but on 2nd February I took a flight with my husband and came to England, not for less period but for 2 year. And with that my 2011 year started in London.

6th February’2011 I had completed first year of my marriage, we decided to celebrated it, we cut a cake and went to a restaurant for dinner with my uncle’s family. It was a mixed feeling of happiness and sadness, on the one side we were missing our families and on the other side we were happy that we have family here to be with them. WE WERE NOT ALONE the best part.. 😀

In 2011, I again started studying as an overseas student, It was not easy when you are going to study in a different country that have different system as compare to your own country, you wonder about level of study, language, teachers, college rules and regulations and behaviour of class mates. College that just keep planning for gaining their profit without giving a thought for student life is my college, my course started late and suddenly my 18 months course was turned into 6 months course, but there was no reduction in our tuition fee, It put over burden on my tiny head.. 😦 Positive part of studying here is that I got to know people from different countries and got some superb friends.  😀

Year without a job, less contact with my best buddies, who are staying in India and a feeling of loneliness were some reason of my bad health here in 2011. Best part of 2011 was that I and my husband come more close to each other, our love bond increase and we started valuing our relation, we have spent some of beautiful moments here as such my birthday, Diwali, Christmas etc 🙂

But I can’t forgot this year because I had come across biggest tragedy of my life which could have ruined my life but I have paused it, though I could not get out of it because it have left unrecoverable impact on my heart. Life must go on so I am moving forward.

With the ending of 2011, it left some of unanswered questions of my life and leaves me on a place where I am searching for myself and looking forward for some positive sights J

Hope for a great 2012

Love you all

Jingle Bells-jingle bells-Jingle all the way

Merry Christmas and I am going to take you to my first Christmas celebrations here in England. 😀

I always celebrate Christmas with enthusiasm Because I love all the festival and For me God is one so I celebrate all the festival that are related to him.. 😀 And here I got one more reason that was a Russian girl with her Indian husband is staying with us. We decided to give her party on her very special day CHRISTMAS.

First step was of getting a Christmas tree and I want an original tree. On 20th we bought original Christmas tree after 2 hour search from centre London and decorated it on next day.. 🙂

That Russian girl Karina told us that they do not drink alcohol and eat non-vegetarian on 24th to show their respect towards God 😀 , so we have decided to party on 25th evening.

Amazing part of Christmas is to play secret Santa. Secret Santa is most popular game of Christmas, in which all of the players’ names are placed into a box and mixed up, then each person picks one name from the box, but doesn’t reveal the name of a person they picked up to anyone. On Christmas day everyone bring a gift for that person they have selected. We played secret Santa and got a person name for whom we are responsible to bring a gift.

On Christmas day, we went in church and did pray, Church was very quiet, peaceful and bit dark, I felt bliss. I lighted a candle for worshiping Jesus, who sacrificed himself for the goodness of humanity, I was feeling very close to him, he was teaching me to be strong and happy, he is the one who stayed in darkness to bring light in others life, We are selfish people who have endless desire that make us evil and take us away from God.

Afterwards we went to market for buying all the goods require for the party. We did prepare starters, drinks and switched On the music and our party began. We are 9 house mates in total. We had lots of fun together and enjoyed eating starter and then had dinner, Rocked the floor at Punjabi, Hindi and English tunes till midnight. It was amazing time. 🙂 And then here came the time to reveal secret Santa and presented gift to each other. We all did exchanged gifts. Gifts were like candles, chocolates, thumb-up cold drink bottle, a toy car with candies, tea Mug and diary.

My Santa said he was sorry for not bringing anything for me, and given promised for bringing gift for me next day, I said ok but my excitement of getting gift from secret Santa first time went out and I felt bit sad but later I went away with cool and nice atmosphere of the party. Next day he came up with a candle, a sweet welcome show piece and my favourite chocolates, Wow I got so many gifts, Yeah my Santa rock.. 😀 

 

Dream world or hell world

Hi so back to share with you some of my experience in Southall, UK and To introduce you with UK life.

My first experience was of getting rental accommodation… Here I got a chance to introduce myself with sharing house system.. 😀

What I dreamt is a country like we see in movies a kind of dream world where you get everything extraordinary… And reality Is:-

First five days we lived in my uncle’s place. I am glad that my Mom’s grand Auntie’s family is living here so I have my cousin uncles and Aunts here.. 😀 First morning in Southall UK.. woke up and got breakfast of bread and half fry eggs so I left eggs and ate bread and butter then we started search for our dream house.. 🙂 First through internet and then we got to know some vacant places which were served to us by agent. So we went to see them. We came out of the house and got freeze and amazed with blowing of freezing wind, Southall is known as mini India and mini Punjab because it will not let you feel that you are in UK but you feel as you are in India. Bluntly speaking it is not look like a part of England and is badly spoiled. Well here you can see people from all part of world, different rules and regulations which are strictly imposed such as traffic lights (they put light system for crossing the road also :D) and get Everything expensive.  

Now for all the people who think it is easy to get your dream house here.. Mind my words it is NOT. We were shown some places by agents and we were shocked.. A very small room with tiny kitchen and bathroom was of £500 and in that even bathroom and kitchen will be shared with a guy. Some places were more expensive and dirty like dustbin and I was feeling like It is hell world not dream world..:( Note that we were looking for independent studio flat, because I was not ready to share with anyone but after 5 days of search, at the end we decided to take accommodation which was cheapest £500 described as a small room in the first. But agent said no because we were without job.. 😦 We are left with option of sharing house ONLY

SHARING which means you will have to share kitchen and bathroom with other people staying in that particular house, normally here in three bedroom house including garage 10 people stay together.. :O

First lesson Forget about your own country style of independent good house in a good price and learn to live paying lot for very less.. J     

We got a room for £85 a week which was a cheap price as per Southall accommodation prise. I was happy, It was very small room and 4 families included we were living there. It was very difficult to manage in so many people.. You have to wait to use bathroom and kitchen, follow the rules to tidy up house.. Hmm I found it very difficult because I was not able to cope with other people in the house because we all were from different city and culture so our style of living is also different. But I have tried my best.

Till then I have shifted to 3 different places but I have not get a place worth living a good life and they all are far away from my dream home and dream world. Everywhere you will have to face some problems such as conflicts between people, conflicts related to use of kitchen and bathroom, conflicts related to use of electricity, washing machine etc. And conflicts because of useless rules and regulations by house owner. But somehow I have learn to manage so now I do not feel tough and if you take it in positive view it give you a chance to meet and stay with people from different countries and different culture.. 😀 So be happy in either ways is what mean you learn to live.. 🙂

Will be back to make you more familiar to UK LIFE

Cheers.. 😀

My Journey from India to The UK

Hi friends, It is my first post and I like to tell you all that my hold on English language is ok type, so please bear my English and Hope I can convey what I want to 😀

Today I am going to describe my journey from India to the UK. Let’s start 😀

I got married in February ’2010 in hurry so that we could applied for UK visa on time :), because UKBA ( UK border agency) change visa rules very frequently. It was my husband dream to be here in UK and it took almost a year to got visa . I have applied for student visa and my husband applied for dependent visa. Here I would like to tell you that I was very negative about my visa to be granted, there were two reason, one I was not prepared to left India, secondly many people got refused visa at that very moment. Well so we granted visa and I got very less time to stay with my family and to be with my friends. In a serious note I was not feeling good because the feeling of leaving India, my family and friends was killing me, but sometime in your life you have to take hard decision, I was happy that most of my loved one were happy and supported me, it was the time when I needed them the most :). Further, It was hectic as me and my husband was working, I left my job 10 days before my flight to the UK and my husband only before 2 days. Just imagine how it was to do shopping , to book flight tickets and arranging currency and the most important to be with family.

Our ticket was booked from Amritsar to Delhi and Delhi to the UK. The day when we were leaving for Amritsar, a cake ceremony was organised by our family to wish us best of luck, It was nice actually to have something like cake in your hectic schedule :D. With heavy heart I left Chandigarh and reached Amritsar at 9pm I guess and went to Golden temple at 10:30pm guess again, Golden temple is best to be visited at night-time, I felt like I was in heaven, I was amazed with its beauty. It was the best part of my journey :D. In between same time I was getting calls from my friends, they were wishing me for my good luck and good journey.

Hmm so next day in morning at 6 am we left for Airport to take our flight which was scheduled at 9 am, that day I have seen tears in my father eyes in first time in my life :(, he was upset and crying and somehow my brother-in-law managed the situation and made us all smile :). We reached at Delhi airport at 11 am I guess, O wOw Delhi Airport have changed a lot, Arey It’s new Delhi Airport.. Superb. Felt great to see it 😀 We had pizza there 🙂 and left for our flight at 1:30pm. Kingfisher airlines people asked us few question at the time of boarding and I got nervous and confused told them my marriage year wrong as Year 2009 instead of 2010:D silly me J, nothing happened bad they let us moved in. Our journey is around 10 hours from Delhi and I was crying :’) 7 hours in total I guess L, It was getting tough more and more, feeling of going away from my family and friends was killing me.. I have not eaten anything in whole journey and was feeling sick 😦

Reached UK at 5:45pm as per UK timing( India time 11:15 pm) I think so. OMG I can see people from all over the world, Airport was flooded with people, huge crowd, Airport is nice and huge, felt great.

 

It was the time of interrogation, and I was very much nervous hmm, long queues were making me more tensed but nothing happened bad again, they asked me some question about my studies and I replied and then they sent us in medical check-up room, there we waited around one hour just to answered concerned person that we have not done any medical check-up lol, she shouted at us and then let us go after taking our permanent address, It was my uncle’s address :D.

Yeah I was relaxed, so it was the time to see my mama ji, he was waiting for us from last two hours as we got free at 8pm . I met him once in India at my place, ya we met many times but I was kid then so I have remembered only one time with accuracy, Nice that I have recognised him :D. We sat in Car and on the way to his home I have given my first look to UK, I was excited and curious, I was nervous to think about new country, new people. A dream in my eyes and I was afraid too, I was unsure about my likeness to new life. It was night so new place was seemed ok and we reached home at 9:30 pm. After completing my journey from India to UK a new journey is On in UK. Will soon let you know about my experience here and Life in UK. Till than take care and have phun.. Love you all  😀 Read the rest of this entry

Hello world!

Wow feel great to be here.. getting bit nervous though…:D  SO today I have step in another world of expression, I just hope my journey will be full of different experience and excitement. It is always nice to have a place, where you have freedom to speak and expression. It is like my dreamland where resides only my own perception and me and I am looking forward to it.